"Most people live in their preference, and not in the present, and that causes them to live in pain"

"Most people live in their preference and not in the present"

Guru Singh said this the other night in class and it made so much sense.

We want something to happen so badly and we know all about the law of manifestation. We know how to do the work, raise our vibration, attract like to us, and then it still doesn't happen.  What?  How?  Why?

Think about it.  When you had the desire, did you get lost in imagining how it would be?  Did you make plans and think about how much better your life was going to be over there?  In the land of having what you wanted?

Then what happened to the present?  Do you remember your walk home?  Or were you lost in fantasy?  Having a full conversation with your mind in the future where it is that you have the thing or person or experience that you wanted.

So we live in preference.  This is how we want our lives to go.  This is the job I want, the lover I want, this is the thing that will make it all better.
How many times have you thought that then gotten what it is that you wanted and went "Uh oh".
The saying "Be careful what you wish for" comes to mind.

And then, on the other hand, if we don;t get what we want we live in pain.  Sometimes real pain, heartache, longing.

So why do we waste so much time trying to get the one experience or the one person?

Yes, of course, we want certain experiences and things for our lives and yes, it is good to have those intentions.  But what is it you are really wanting?  What will that new thing or person or experience bring you?
A sense of security?  of worthiness?  Of being loved ?  Of not being alone? Freedom?
Think about it.  Be honest with yourself.
Then the work of feeling that feeling can begin.
Now you can try to cultivate that feeling in your life , without the panacea of THE person, place or thing, (Did I just use the word "panacea"?)
Find ways.  Buy yourself  flowers.  Treat yourself to something you normally wouldn't.  Go on an adventure. Volunteer. Be creative in different ways you could make money. Take up a new hobby.  Be brave.  Talk to a stranger.

If you can do this, then you may start to feel better.  Dare I say good even?  And without what you thought you needed to make you happy..  You will no longer be projecting the lack of those things you want, but you will attract those very things that you are already vibrating.
Does this make sense?

And you may find out that the one you wanted is not the right one for you, or maybe you will decide you are fine without what you thought you wanted.  Or you may get everything you've always wanted and it's all perfect.  Then you know what?  You will want something else.  And that is the way it goes.  It is how the universe expands.  Our consciousness creating more and more and more.

But whatever is happening in this present moment is perfect.  Why?  Because it is what it is.  So maybe drop the drama of it all and get into it.  Don't miss out.  It may not be "perfect".  But guru Jagger said it best when he said "You get what you need."

love you